My hubs and I have been married for almost 6 years. But we jar been together for 12. Wow! 12 seems so long when you consider we are only 31 years old. I was very much the independent girl when I met him. I will pay half, I don’t like PDA beyond holding hands. But when I met him I fell hard for him.
Over the years we had our trials, the ups and downs, including a break up that nearly kept us apart forever. But during all that I became so comfortable with him. He became my best friend. Even when we were apart if something funny happened I would call because I knew he would get it.
Cut to now. I have farted, belched, used the bathroom in front of him. I had 2 c sections- he has literally seen me from the inside out! There is no mystery between me and my man. And sometimes I wonder if that makes our relationship different. Does he not think I “need” him because he has seen me get up and determined to leave the hospital walk around mere hours after having a baby? Is it because he has seen me time and time again do things women are not supposed to ever do in front of their men? Has my naive belief that husbands should be a part of every aspect of our lives led mine to no longer see me as the hot crazy girl he once dated and struggled to figure out?
Probably. Hell of course it has! But the big question is can I get my groove back? I mean Stella did so why can’t I? If I stop doing those things in front of him will he forget? If I shave when he isn’t around, if I stop belching like a dude will he see me differently?
The smile of your child makes you forget the pain of childbirth so why can’t a little mystery and lingerie make my husband remember I’m not one of the guys?
Don’t get me wrong he finds me attractive and love me very much but sometimes I feel we fall into a roommate rut. And I can’t help but wonder why this doesn’t happen to other women. In particular the foo foo women. Well, they keep their mystery. They don’t floss in front of their husband. They don’t belch like Barney from The Simpsons. I think it’s time for me to add a little mystery back into my marriage. What do you think?